MargenReally listening is lending your silence without charging interest. Almost nobody can afford it.
Most people don't listen: they wait. They sharpen the reply while the other one is still talking, like someone reloading the weapon before the enemy has finished the sentence. And then they are surprised to have understood nothing.
Listening costs because it demands giving up, for a while, on existing. And existing is the one thing we have been taught never to let go of.